Sex positions guide: 12 to try tonight

An honest walk-through of popular sex positions — what they feel like, who they suit, and small tweaks that turn a "fine" one into a favourite. Written for adults, judgement-free, plainly.

Before you start

The "best" position is the one that makes both partners feel connected and comfortable. Height difference, hip flexibility, joint pain, and mood all matter more than the diagram. Use pillows generously, keep water nearby, and talk. Consent is ongoing — if something isn't working, stop and switch.

A small amount of body-safe lubricant makes almost every position on this list better. Water-based lube is compatible with condoms and silicone toys.

The 12 positions

#1

Missionary, reimagined

Best for: Everyone. The classic — with tweaks that change everything.

Slide a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to tilt the pelvis up. Slower, deeper, more eye contact. Add a small vibrator between you for hands-free clitoral stimulation.

#2

Cowgirl

Best for: Partners who want the receiver in control of pace and depth.

Receiver straddles, hands on chest or headboard for leverage. Lean forward for more clitoral contact, back for a deeper G-spot angle.

#3

Reverse cowgirl

Best for: A different angle with a great view for the partner underneath.

Same as cowgirl, facing the feet. Slower is better here — the angle is intense. A hand on the hips helps guide rhythm.

#4

Doggy style

Best for: Anyone chasing depth and a slightly primal energy.

Receiver on hands and knees, or forearms down for a steeper angle. Reach around with a bullet vibrator for simultaneous clitoral play.

#5

Spooning

Best for: Sleepy mornings, lazy Sundays, cold nights.

Both partners on their sides, receiver in front. Slow, close, hands free to roam. Perfect for whispered filth and eye-closed intimacy.

#6

The lotus

Best for: Couples who want closeness over acrobatics.

Partner sits cross-legged, receiver sits in their lap, legs wrapped around. Rocking, not thrusting. Foreheads touching. Absurdly intimate.

#7

Standing from behind

Best for: Spontaneous, kitchen-counter energy.

Receiver bends over a stable surface at hip height. Height difference matters — a low step or slight bend of the knees usually solves it.

#8

The chair

Best for: Face-to-face without the workout.

Partner sits on a solid chair (no wheels). Receiver straddles, feet on the floor for control. Slow grinding beats fast bouncing every time.

#9

Butterfly

Best for: Deep, dramatic, surprisingly comfortable.

Receiver lies at the edge of the bed, hips lifted, legs on the partner's shoulders. Partner stands. Adds pillow support under the lower back if needed.

#10

Scissors

Best for: Slow, sensual, all-genders friendly.

Both partners on their sides, legs interlocked. Great for grinding, external stimulation, and toys pressed between you.

#11

The bridge

Best for: Confident partners who want a show-off angle.

Receiver in a supported bridge position (shoulders and feet on the bed, hips lifted). Partner kneels. Short bursts only — it's a workout.

#12

Face-to-face lying down

Best for: The most underrated position on this list.

Both partners on their sides, legs interwoven, faces close. No performance, no angle-chasing — just skin, breath, and time.

Making any position better

  • Add a small vibrator. Bullet vibes fit between bodies in almost every position and turn "good" into "unforgettable."
  • Use pillows as furniture. A wedge under the hips changes the angle of every position on this list.
  • Slow down. Most positions feel better at half the pace you think.
  • Talk. "Higher," "slower," "just like that" — the hottest words in any language.

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